What should parents do when their child is acting spoilt and screaming?

What should parents do when their child is acting spoilt and screaming?


  • When a child is screaming and acting up, what are the first things parents should think of doing to moderate their behavior? 
  • What are the solutions to a child exhibiting inappropriate behaviors, such as screaming, hanging onto you, hanging onto someone else, falling to the floor deliberately or breaking things? 
  • What behaviors should parents be on the lookout for? 
  • What strategies are available to ensure your child expresses himself or herself in a correct manner? 


When your child feels wronged and expresses themselves through inappropriate behavior, such as screaming, hanging onto your side, hanging onto others, throwing themselves to the floor or breaking things, parents should think of ways that will help their child express themselves in the correct fashion. The first thing to do in such a situation is identify the reasons why the child is acting this way. 

Causes of this type of behavior

  1. Children are still unable to communicate their desires through speech so they use actions instead. 
  2. The child does not understand why they have been denied something or haven’t gotten what they wanted. 
  3. The child has previously acted in this way and got what he/she wanted, plus the comforting from parents, so the child repeats this behavior. 

How can parent stop or minimize the child screaming?

  1. Teach your child to tell you what they want with words, politely, before you give them what they want. If the child does not speak clearly, you can be an example and ask them to repeat after you before giving them what they desire. 
  2. Give a clear explanation as to why they didn’t receive the thing they wanted. 
  3. Once you’ve given an explanation of why you haven’t done or given them something they wanted, offer them something that is possible to have or play with them instead as a means of holding their attention. 
  4. Manage their environment so that it is lacking in anything that may stimulate their anger. For example, if a child wants a toy which they cannot have, take them away from the place containing those toys to reduce their exposure to whatever is stimulating their inappropriate behavior. 
  5. If a child displays severe behaviors, teach them to understand their own mood and whether they are angry/upset at any moment. Parents and guardians should give time to their children, being quiet and sitting near them while teaching the child how to calm themselves down. One way of doing this is by teaching them how to count from 1–10 when they feel angry in order to regulate their mood or by speaking to them slowly and calmly to help them get over their anger. 
  6. When the child calms down, invite them to partake in other activities. You shouldn’t speak about the previous issue or give the child a toy as a reward. 
  7. With this in mind, the child should not receive too much comforting and cuddling as they will see this as a reward for their inappropriate behavior. However, you may want to sit next to them, rub their back softly or give them a cuddle when teaching them how to calm themselves down properly. 

Adjusting a child’s behavior can offer significant results once everyone within a household is thinking along the same lines and dealing with the child consistently. Instilling ethics, independence and a knowledge of how to regulate their own behavior when they desire something all play a part in a child’s emotional and social development. This is a key part of their development in terms of maturity and it should be taught from an early age, increasing constantly as they age. This will ensure that the child grows up to become a happy and contented member of our future society. 


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